Starting this week, I’ll be publishing a weekly tribute celebrating a figure who has played an important role in my life.
After the recent deaths of Mac Miller and Kobe Bryant, I had trouble coming to terms with knowing I’d never be able to thank them for inspiring me and making my life better.
I knew anyone can die at any time, but their losses still caught me completely off-guard. They were both in the prime of their lives at 26 and 41, respectively. How was I supposed to know they wouldn’t be around to get their flowers 20 years from now?
In the days after their deaths, I noticed a constant outpouring of adulation from fans and peers around the world. It would’ve been so much better if they had actually experienced that celebration firsthand.
Moving forward, I thought of ways to prevent this from happening again. Trying to continually and perpetually celebrate every person I care about seemed unrealistic, so I searched for a different solution. I started seeing comments online urging others to “give people their flowers while they’re alive.”
There it was.
“Flower Fridays” immediately popped into my head.
There are tons of people who have made my life better, so I’m going to get to them one by one, week by week, until I’ve given everyone I care for their flowers.
I’ll start with people most of us are familiar with, hoping to keep it broadly relatable, but may eventually sprinkle in some teachers, friends, and coaches from my personal life.
A few people I write about may get to read their tribute, most probably won’t. That’s okay. Ultimately, I hope these posts are a source of positive energy, inspiration, and discovery for you.
So where does this leave you? That’s up to you.
I’m writing about this because I like to write. There are lots of people in the world, and I want to focus on highlighting the awesome ones instead of criticizing the infamous ones.
You may not have listened to Mac or watched Kobe. That’s not the point. I’m sure you have your own Mac and Kobe. Send them a card, Tweet, DM, or even just a nice thought.
They don’t have to be famous, either. Email that teacher who changed your life; buy your mom flowers; smile at the custodian.
The who is irrelevant, the what is everything.
Instead of talking about how much something sucks, let’s highlight something that’s going right. Instead of criticizing an artist or athlete, let’s bring up one we think deserves more recognition.
Whatever you do or don’t do, try to adopt the mindset behind this series: nothing in life is guaranteed, so give people you care for, famous or not, their flowers every chance you get.